This week started with more threats and harrassment from the ex.  On Tuesday my 48 year old uncle died of lung cancer and my ex thought that he should be nice.  Nice to the point of telling me all he wants is to come home to prove that he is a loveing husband and father.

Ok, so that's just stupid,  his behaviour over the past 7 months has not been that of someones who is loving.  The restraining order I hope to get next week will show him that I'm not falling for that rubbish.

It was my uncle's funeral today, and as it was in another part of the country and I couldn't afford to get there, I got my father in law to watch my kids for 3 hours and I sat down, cast circle, lit a candle and had a bottle of my uncles favourite beer.  Sent him off in a style he would appreciate.

I believe my ex when he said he was sorry, because I believe he is sorry that not even a death in my family can make me run to him.  He only found out cause I told him 'I've had a death in my family, and talking to you is not a priority so leave me alone cause I can't be bothered with your harrassment today." 

I hope you have all had a great week, and that the Goddess shines on us all for the coming one.

Blessed Be

Greetings all

One thing about me, I getted angry then I find a nice way to get even.  After all the rubbish I've had to face since the ex left 7 months ago, the kids came home and said his girlfriend is pregnant.  That's ok, cause, she's welcome to him, but i found a way to wind the man up big time.

I simply pointed out that he is still married.  That makes her, his mistress. I also said, that if he continued to make my life hell, that, when their child was a year old and our divorce could be finalised, I might not be found to sign papers, making her, always the mistress, but never the wife.

Ok, so my inner ----- came out.  I don't let her out often, but it felt good to wind him up and cause him distress after the hurt and horribleness he has caused me.  I'm gonna be left with around $10,000 worth of debt cause of him, so being spiteful for 5 minutes felt good.

He's been really nice for the past week, although I know it won't last.  My lawyer is preparing a restrainging order for the next time he gets nasty, so I am prepared.

He admitted that he has been trying to cause me to have a major depressive episode so that he could come home, although why, when he has someone else who is now pregnant, he still wants to come home, is beyond my comprehension.  Ultimate betrayal and all that, he can never come back now.  I pointed out to him, that, instead of me breaking under the pressure, I first got a parenting order, the next time, a tresspass order.  Had he figured out the pattern yet?

I hope everyone is having a great week, cause, I am at peace with my life, despite the rubbish that keeps on coming.

Blessed Be everyone

This week has gone by very fast.  On thursday, week before last, the parental order I put in place back in march became a legal document.  No longer an interum order, it became a permanent order.  My ex husband, threw a hissy fit, and on Friday went into New Zealands child welfare agency called, CYFS (Child youth and family services) and reported me for supposedly hitting my autistic child in the face.  Of course, I never found out until the following Tuesday after noon when they rang me to invite me into the office for a chat.  After falsly accusing me of this, he then turned up at my house, telling me that he had been to a  lawyer to fight the parenting order.  6 months too late but he did it.  The car he had which the finance of was still under my name, was due to be repossed on the monday and I told him to get out so he called the police on me.  They came, I apologised for wasting their time but that I had not called them.  They told me to stop being nice and get a tresspass order so he can't come on my property and harass me.  I did this on Monday.  He recieved the tresspass Tuesday and the text harrassment begun.  On Wednesday, stressed out about having to go to CYFS I had a car accident on the way to see my lawyer.  Have not been able to work for the rest of the week due to jarring my kneck and shoulders as well as my back in the accident.

On the bright side of things, CYFS said they are not about to take my kids off me, so that's great.  I didn't completely have a mental breakdown and sink into depression, which is what the ex was hoping for.  I have remained strong for my kids who have been an absolute blessing, spending the evenings rubbing my sore back and shoulders to help ease my aches.  They really are special little fairies.

I hope next week goes better, although I know there is still more to come yet.  I will cope with whatever he throws at me next, because my kids are the most important aspect of my life and for them I would face the fires of hell.(That's if I believed in hell).

Blessed Be

Thank you all for your comments and your good wishes for my friend and her son.  You have no idea how much it means to have you all do this. 

Blessed Be

Today I spent time with my friend who's 17 year old son has cancer.  4 weeks ago he was a vibrant young man.  Today, he had to be assisted into the car and then into a wheelchair when I dropped them back at the hospital.    It made me think how lucky I am to have 2 healthy children.  5 weeks ago, this young man was looking forward to finishing a course and starting a job, now, he looks forward to the end of his treatment and to feeling better.  I send him healing energy but feel so useless.  I wish there was more I could do for them both. 

Blessed Be one and all